It's estimated that approximately two thousand classified fears exist. What's interesting is that psychiatrists say we are born with only two innate ones: the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. This means we learn every other fear; which means we can unlearn every other fear. We are all shaped by our upbringing and life events. These defining experiences either plant a seed of confidence or a seed of uncertainty, a seed of hope or a seed of vulnerability, a seed of faith or a seed of fear.

John expresses the heart of our relationship with God: 'There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear' (1 John 4:8 NIV). The words 'perfect love' do not describe our love for God; rather God's unconditional, unfailing love for us.

A pastor writes: 'The goal of love is fearlessness! As we grow in a love relationship with God, we unlearn the fears that paralyse us and neutralise us spiritually. That is the essence of faith. Faith is the process of unlearning your irrational fears. The only God-ordained fear is the fear of God. And if we fear [love, honour, reverence and respect] God, we don't have to fear anyone or anything else. Unlearning our fears is really a process of learning to trust God more and more.'

So what now? God has promised you that he will never leave or desert you. So you can boldly say: 'The Lord helps me! Why should I be afraid' (Hebrews 13:6 CEV)?

Sometimes we want to justify what we're doing and say, 'It feels right, so it can't be wrong.' But if God's word says something is wrong, it's wrong, no matter how right it feels. The old saying 'Let your conscience be your guide' is only half the truth. The other half should read, 'as long as your conscience is grounded in and guided by the clear teachings of God's word.'

As a redeemed child of God, we're called to live by his commandments instead of by our feelings, impulses and emotions, or by popular thinking. When God guides us, temptation is much less likely to sweep us off course or shipwreck us.

Paul wrote: 'Timothy, my son, here is my command to you: Fight well in the Lord's battles, just as the Lord told us through his prophets that you would. Cling tightly to your faith in Christ and always keep your conscience clear, doing what you know is right. For some people have disobeyed their consciences and have deliberately done what they knew was wrong. It isn't surprising that soon they lost their faith in Christ' (1 Timothy 1:18-20 TLB).

Some 'rights' and 'wrongs' are pretty clear cut, but some need deeper time in prayer for clarity on how to handle. Let's ask the Holy Spirit to guide us and give us discernment, to help us live with our conscience grounded in God's word.

So what now? Keep your conscience led by God's word. This is the safest place for you to be, emotionally and spiritually.

Let's ask ourselves these questions: What kind of work environment brings out the best in me? Do I thrive on routine? Am I motivated by people's needs? Do I enjoy tackling challenges that might discourage others? How about my relationships? Do I thrive when working alone with minimal distractions or as part of a team with heaps of interaction? What are my strengths? God said of Bezalel the builder, 'I have filled him with...wisdom...He is a master craftsman, expert in working with gold, silver and bronze...skilled in engraving...mounting gemstones...carving wood' (Exodus 31:3-5 NLT). What makes my eyes light up and my pulse race? Do I enjoy working with computers, cars or animals? Am I a great people manager, or do I like fixing things, or am I good with finances?

The Bible says, 'For we are God's handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do' (Ephesians 2:10 NIV). We're not just another brick in the wall or another nail in the carpenter's toolbox! God has a purpose for our lives, and we'll experience our highest levels of joy and fulfilment when we discover and fulfil that purpose.

So what now? God says to you: 'Do your own work well, and then you will have something to be proud of. But don't compare yourself with others' (Galatians 6:4-5 CEV). You are God's person: 'I have made [you] for my glory (see Isaiah 43:7). You're the only 'you' he created, and his Kingdom needs your unique contribution. Thrive being you.

Jesus attended church regularly. 'He went as usual to the synagogue on the Sabbath' (Luke 4:16 NLT). The apostles also went to church on a regular basis: 'They worshipped together at the Temple each day' (Acts 2:46 NLT). And David loved God's house. He said, 'A single day in your courts is better than a thousand anywhere else! I would rather be a gatekeeper in the house of my God than live the good life in the homes of the wicked' (Psalm 84:10 NLT).

So, do we love God's house? It's really good to love church, because it's there we'll hear his word explained, find strategies for living, discover our spiritual gifts, form relationships that will sustain us in the hard times, and maybe even have our misconceptions challenged! Where else can we find all that?

Yale University conducted a study confirming that people who go to church regularly are happier, healthier and live longer than those who don't. The survey found that many church attendees had lower blood pressure, less stress and greater immunity to disease. One of the interviewers asked an 80-year-old woman, who happened to be running on a treadmill at the time, what her secret was. She said, 'When you walk with God, you have purpose, so you live longer. And you have peace with God, so you live better.'

So what now? There are many great reasons to go to church! Find one that suits you personally, welcomes you in and, most importantly, brings you closer to Jesus.

Here are three ways we can know God is real and have a relationship with him.

(1) Intellectual knowledge of God. 'They know the truth about God because he has made it obvious to them. For ever since the world was created, people have seen the earth and sky. Through everything God made, they can clearly see his invisible qualities - his eternal power and divine nature' (Romans 1:19-20 NLT). (2) Subconscious knowledge of God. 'Even Gentiles, who do not have God's written law, show that they know his law when they instinctively obey it, even without having heard it. They demonstrate that God's law is written in their hearts, for their own conscience and thoughts either accuse them or tell them they are doing right' (Romans 2:14-15 NLT). (3) Personal knowledge of God. 'At one time we thought of Christ merely from a human point of view. How differently we know him now! This means that anyone who belongs to Christ has become a new person. The old life is gone; a new life has begun' (2 Corinthians 5:16-17 NLT)!

God reveals himself through creation. He speaks through our conscience and reveals his moral requirements and character. But beyond that, we can know God personally and have a relationship with him through his Son, Jesus.

So what now? Wherever you are on your journey with Jesus, ask him to show himself to you more and more, in whichever way he would like. He longs for you to know him intimately.

On any assignment we have for God, we don't need many people with us, we just need the right people. Gideon chose thirty-two thousand soldiers to fight the Midianites. Then he said, 'Whoever is timid or afraid may...go home' (Judges 7:3 NLT), and twenty-two thousand soldiers left. God told him he still had too many, and added, 'I'll show you which ones shall go with you and which ones shall not' (Judges 7:4 TLB). In the end, Gideon only had three hundred soldiers - but they won the day! Today, God still does more with less.

God took the same spirit that rested on Moses and placed it on his leaders so they could help him (see Numbers 11:16-17). That's what we need - people with the same spirit as us. Just because somebody is talented doesn't mean they're meant to journey with us. The question is, 'Does this person have the right spirit?'

When we're journeying with the right people with the right spirit, let's remember the things that will help us succeed... We all like to feel special, so let's be kind. We all want a better tomorrow, so let's grow hope. We all need direction, so let's have a plan. We're all self-concerned, so let's meet the needs. We all get low emotionally, so let's nurture and encourage. We all want success, so let's nurture our vision.

So what now? For your God-assignment, small or big, your success depends on having the right people in your life. So, ask God to show you who belongs in your life for this time.