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Meet others halfway

When it comes to our relationships, we need to learn to be flexible. There are times when we need to stand firm, but if we find we always need to be 'right' and make the other person 'wrong', we'll struggle to build stable, long-lasting friendships and relationships. One author writes: 'We will not last together because we were never wrong. We will last because when we were wrong, we found the invincible will to correct the wrong and the grace to endure whatever it took to survive it together.'

Relationships are made up of imperfect people with different ideas, opinions, backgrounds, experiences and expectations - it's inevitable we'll disagree from time to time, no matter how well we usually get on. The key is to accept that we won't always agree, and then be willing to work together to find a solution, open to change and prepared to meet others halfway.

The root of many problems in relationships is selfishness. We like to get our own way. But that's not how the Bible encourages us to live. Philippians 2:4 (NCV) says: 'Do not be interested only in your own life, but be interested in the lives of others'. When we're concerned for others as well as ourselves, we'll find it easier to co-operate and find middle ground when disagreements happen.

So what now? Are you involved in a dispute at the moment? Instead of standing your ground being 'right', trying to correct the other's 'wrong', ask God to help you meet the person halfway to solve the issue and honour the relationship.


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Nov13

Spirit-filled living

God's indwelling Spirit does three wonderful things for each of us: (1) He seals us! 'In him you were sealed with the Holy Spirit whom he promised' (Ephesians 1:13 GWT). To protect a letter we seal the envelope. To seal a deal, we sign the contract. A seal declares importance, value and ownership.

(2) He protects us! Peter says we are 'shielded by God's power' (1 Peter 1:5 NIV). We have no idea how many times God has stepped between us and the enemy, protecting us from harm. Deep within each of us, God's Spirit whispers, 'You are mine, and what I own I protect and care for.'

(3) He makes sure we are heard! Understand: 'The Spirit helps us with our weakness. We do not know how to pray as we should. But the Spirit himself speaks to God for us, even begs God for us with deep feelings that words cannot explain. God can see what is in people's hearts. And he knows what is in the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit speaks to God for his people in the way God wants' (Romans 8:26-27 NCV).

Notice: 'The Spirit help us with our weakness.' Weak bodies, weak wills, weak faith. How good to know that it's not up to us. None of us prays as much as we should - but we all pray more than we think - because the Holy Spirit turns our sighs into petitions and makes sure we are heard.

So what now? Sealed! Protected! Heard! Spirit-filled living - refuse to settle for less.

Nov12

More of you for the Spirit

Romans 8:5 TLB says, 'Those who follow after the Holy Spirit find themselves doing those things that please God'. All believers have God in their heart - but not all believers have given their whole heart to God! The question is not, 'How can I have more of the Holy Spirit?' It's 'How can the Spirit have more of me?'

The apostle Paul was big on pleasing God. Look at his list: 'Stop telling lies. Let us tell our neighbours the truth, for we are all parts of the same body. And don't sin by letting anger control you... If you are a thief, quit stealing. Instead, use your hands for good hard work, and then give generously to others in need. Don't use foul or abusive language. Let everything you say be good and helpful... And do not bring sorrow to God's Holy Spirit by the way you live... Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words and slander, as well as all types of evil behaviour' (Ephesians 4:25-31 NLT).

Let's look at a shorter list: (a) Our tongue. Do we tend to stretch the truth or gossip? (b) Our language. Is our conversation wholesome? (c) Our grudges. Do we hold on to resentment? (d) Our activity. Do we kick back because we think the world owes us something?

So what now? Ask yourself: 'How can the Holy Spirit have more of me?' Pray this: 'Holy Spirit, guide me today, empower me and help me to honour you in all that I do. Amen.'

Nov11

The cross in the chaos

On September 11 2001, volunteer Frank Silecchia sifted through the carnage at the World Trade Centre. He found 47 bodies but no survivors. But something did catch his attention - a cross standing upright against the dusty sunrise. The unmistakeable shape was made by steel beams from two different buildings. As they'd crashed into each other, the girders, forged together by the fire, had created a giant cross in the chaos.

When death or disease claims a loved one, or financial disaster wipes out our sense of security, we wonder, 'Where's God in all of this? Does he care?' We can handle almost anything as long as we know he's there.

When God introduced himself to Moses through a burning bush he said, 'I Am' (Exodus 3:14 GWT). This has not changed. He is still the same 'I Am'. Jesus said, 'Before Abraham was born, I Am' (John 8:58 NIV). He is 'the same yesterday, today and forever' (Hebrews 13:8 NLT). He still walks into the events of our lives: weddings, funerals, broken homes, hospital rooms, bankrupt businesses and jail cells, saying 'I Am - always with you.' Listen: '"Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not..." says the Lord who has compassion on you' (Isaiah 54:10 NIV).

So what now? Going through a difficult, painful or confusing time at the moment? Look closer... see the cross... see 'I Am' standing right there with you. He's been there all along.

Nov10

Patience in the winter

The Bible says, 'To everything there is a season...' (Ecclesiastes 3:1 NKJV). We can't pray our life's seasons away. There are some situations we aren't meant to change - we're meant to go, and grow, through them! In winter, trees take advantage of the season to rebuild their strength underground and prepare to be fruitful next season. Then in spring they push their way back up again in the form of new growth.

Looking back over our life we'll find that it's seasonal. Growth comes, then struggle, and so on. Each season has its purpose. God has a reason for not wanting us to be productive all the time. When he lets wintry weather blow through our life he's getting us ready for spring.

James writes, 'My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing' (James 1:2-4 NKJV). One of the issues we'll struggle with in a winter waiting time is the urge to hurry or make spontaneous decisions. Let's not do it! Not every situation needs immediate action. Remember, patience comes from trust, and we can't trust a God we don't know.

So what now? The weather is warming up now, but you may be in a 'winter' season in an area of your life. Thank Jesus for patience to get you through it.

Nov09

Daily dose of Scripture

Shortly after Jesus died he appeared to two of his followers: 'sadness [was] written across their faces' (Luke 24:17 NLT). In fact they were in so much pain, they didn't even click it was Jesus! He'd risen from the dead, and even though they hadn't realised, he'd come to take their sorrow. How did he do this?

A quick prayer? Did he leap out a tree shouting 'Tadaaaa!!!!?' No. Jesus took them through the writings of Moses and all the prophets, explaining from all the Scriptures the things concerning himself' (Luke 24:27 NLT). He talked to them about God's word - the one thing that never fails! Did it make a difference? For those two it did: 'When he talked with us along the road and explained the Scriptures to us, didn't it warm our hearts' (Luke 24:32 CEV)?

Trying to live a Christian life without Scripture is like trying to run a car without petrol, work on an empty stomach or pay for the movies with a Farmers card: it just won't work. There are many things vying for our attention each day, most of them destructive or unhelpful. The Bible reminds us of what's true and important, and helps us to stay spiritually healthy.

So what now? Don't run your spiritual tank on empty. Take your daily medicine - read your Bible! It has all the nourishment you need for life. (And, ask the Holy Spirit to help you to see all its health benefits)

Nov08

Seek true joy (2)

Fred and Betty were driving home from church. 'Fred, did you notice the sermon wasn't up to scratch today?' Fred replied, 'No, not really.' Betty continued, 'Well, did you notice that the worship was flat?' He responded, 'I didn't.' Undaunted, Betty continued, 'Well, you must have noticed that young family right in front of us. They ruined the whole service with their noise!' 'Sorry dear, I didn't notice'. In disgust Betty finally puffs, 'Honestly, Fred, I don't know why you even bother going to church!'

Why do some churchgoers think it's their job to judge the church? When Paul writes, 'Come out from them and be separate' (2 Corinthians 6:17 NIV), he's saying our faith should make us different - not negatively, but positively, different! Unless we commit ourselves to walking in the joy of the Lord, we will find negative ways of separating ourselves from non-believers.

Let's think about who we represent. Jesus calls himself 'the good shepherd' (John 10:11 NIV). 'Good'. His goodness is a powerful attracting force that wins people's hearts. Does that describe us? It should! Paul writes, 'Rejoice in the Lord always' (Philippians 4:4 NIV). When he wrote those words he was in prison with no chance of getting out! Happiness is an emotion, but joy is a fruit of the Spirit (see Galatians 5.22 NIV). And any time, anywhere, it is available to us.

So what now? Each morning get up and say, 'Today I will go out with joy, because God's word demands it and a hurting world needs it!'